that person who said that horrible think to you should rot in hell. Like you, I am afraid of my last days. My cousin is twenty years older than me and she is experiencing dementia. She has not close family and refuses to accept help. the niece that she loved like a daughter wants to help her but my cousin thinks her niece is stealing from her. My cousin is hearing her neice laugh at her in her own apartment. She accuses her niece of trying to break in. the niece is heartbroken because of course none of it is true. I live to far away to help regularly. the though of ending up like my cousin scares me to death. Yes have kids. Two boys who are focused on themselves. I certainly don't want to be a burden to them! I understand what you are saying.