Thank you for writing this. My children are adopted. I've always tried to make them feel loved and special. They are Hispanic and I am white so it's obvious they cannot be mine and husband's children. We were always proud to talk about adoption. My oldest had a couple of why me's but now he is not interested in finding his family. He gets mad when I ask. The youngest wanted to always find his family and I made him wait until he was 18. When he gets upset he goes off the rails. Well, he met her and he went off the rails. He's had two DUI's this summer even though he's only 19. Had a car accident and totaled his car. He broke up with his girlfriend of two years. I can't help but feel it's all adoption related. He has moved out.. we went to court with him and we are helping him some with bills. We don't know where to go from here.