thank you for pointed out the use of my term disruption.. it is not the same as a termination...We were in the beginning stages of adoption.. nothing was formal.. except the young man was transferred to us as a foster child...we had been vistiing back and forth informally for months and he finally moved in. After about a month HE asked to leave and stated that he did not want to live with us. I could not require a child of that age to be forced into a relationship that he didn't want. After he left or home, he moved into two other homes only to do the same thing again. The childed looked great on the outside was was a hurt child on the inside. It is something that I have never before written about because it is so painful for me.