oh my,,, your story..it's so close to home...my son is at the beginning of his journey into this very same lifestyle...we are trying to decide what to do...meanwhile my niece is sucking me dry... I've spent thousands of dollars on her this year alone.. my husband is pissed.... my niece has a ten year old... do I let him suffer? and my friend...she has been through this journey for twenty years... she has done all of the things you have done.. this time she has let her son sit in jail for two years.. she says it gives her piece of mind to know where he is and that he is ok...she's grateful he's in jail...meanwhile she is paying child support for two of his children... it never ends for her..Bless you ....I feel your pain...