I was an oops baby. My father was my main caretaker but my mother was distant. I think that she was depressed. I was babysat by my siblings. the neighbors, a housekeeper, and then I was on my own. My oldest sister doesn't understand my attitude toward my mother. From her description, my mother was an entirely different person when she first be came a mother. My mother died before we ever resolved anything. I feel sad about that.