I can understand that. You know, when a woman adopts a child she is so afraid that the bio mother will come back and claim that child. In my case, my son's mother was fighting addiction and I wanted to make sure she was in a good place when she met him. My son also seems to sink into a depression when things change unexpectedly. I didn't want that to happen. I truly wanted to be friends with his mother and maybe that will happen one day. There is always hope.