Hi, Congrats on your positive attitude. Just a couple of years ago, my husband and his brother outed his cousin for not telling her children they were adopted. One daughter had come to us multiple times upset because she had health issues and she couldn't understand why her mother wouldn't get genetic testing. For months I refused to take part in telling this young woman who was in the 30s the truth but I just couldn't stand it anymore. She deserved to know. Meanwhile, my children are adopted, both Hispanic, look nothing like us. I helped my youngest find his bio mom. They have not been able to connect. Meanwhile, my son has followed in their footprints of drugs and alcohol. He is only 20 and is already an alcoholic. My husband and I don't drink or smoke. Genetics is king in some cases.