As an adoptive parent, I certainly hear what you are saying. When my husband and I fostered, I met some real jerks out there in the fostering world. Not all parents are good parents regardless if they are adoptive of biological. And yes, we've gotten a lot of comments including one from a police officer who stopped investigating our son's car accident to ask us some truly ignorant questions. We are older than most parents and our kids are Hispanic and we are white. But no one is a hero. We are just people trying to make our way as a family.